American Segregation:

The fundamental need to ensure equal protections

by Sean Kullman

Originally Appeared on Substack on February 18, 2022

In many ways, America is still a segregated country. It certainly is on the gender-policy front. By any measure, boys and men are far less likely to receive the same protections and it’s apparent in policies at the state and federal level, despite the statistical reality that the Male Gender-Gap has exceeded troublesome in a number of areas.

In many ways, America is still a segregated country. It certainly is on the gender-policy front. By any measure, boys and men are far less likely to receive the same protections and it’s apparent in policies at the state and federal level, despite the statistical reality that the Male Gender-Gap has exceeded troublesome in a number of areas.

From 2009 to 2019, over 240,000 males have died in fatal car accidents, a 2.4:1 male to female ratio. Over 535,000 men have died from suicide and opioid deaths between 2009 and 2018. Though males account for 66% of opioid overdose deaths, they accounted for 69% of all overdose deaths in 2020 and that percentage may be slightly higher. In the last 10 years, over 120,000 men have been victims of homicide. The United States can expect approximately 900,000 male deaths or more every 10 years to suicide, drug overdoses, homicide, and fatal car crashes alone.

Many of the various ways men die are related to physical and mental health, crime, career, and other factors that are preventable. Male outcomes are partly a result of the cultural marginalization, suppression, and isolation of maleness; something recognizable in our educational institutions and something that crosses all racial lines as well. As a culture, we are caging male energy and expecting different outcomes than the ones seen in the figures above and below.

There is a systemically corrupt practice, at the state and federal level, to impose policy instead of enforce laws that ensure equal protections. There are gender policy councils at state and federal levels funded by tax dollars that exclude males. The U.S. Department of Labor, Health and Human Services, social services, the family court system, public universities, and so many other publicly funded entities continue to construct female protections, services, and programs even though males are the class of citizens most negatively impacted in various measures.

The Oppressor Narrative

Much of the gender approach is constructed under the guise of an oppressor and victimhood narrative at the expense of other citizens, namely boys and men. But elected officials often respond to voter turnout and not necessarily equal protections.

There are certainly essential truths regarding the rights of women that needed to be addressed and must continue to be addressed, but so much of the narrative is now prescriptive and rooted in ideological precepts with the intent of encouraging special interests that ultimately marginalize our nation’s sons.

The current approach to policy routinely violates equal protections. Some include the Violence Against Women Act, the White House Gender Policy Council, and the California Commission on the Status of Women and Girls. There is no denying women are victims of violence, but so are men. And not in small numbers. According to the CDC, nearly 16 million U.S. men have been victims of intimate partner violence. “Over 1 in 5 women (22.3%) and nearly 1 in 7 men (14.0%) have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime.” And men are far more likely to be victims of violent crime outside of rape.

Institutions across the country, including congress and the senate, regularly enact policies that violate equal protections, knowing full well that any objections or call for policies that protect men and boys will result in political suicide, as one political staffer told me. Or, people will need to sue institutions.

It’s the reason Dr. Mark Perry has filed hundreds of Title IX suits against college institutions that violate Title IX law. In other words, universities knowingly institute policies and force actions that violate Title IX and simply wait for individuals to sue or file complaints with the Office of Civil Rights. In many instances, universities are playing with house money while families may need to mortgage homes to ensure their children, primarily sons, receive equal protections.

In 2008, attorney Marc Angelucci won a groundbreaking ruling (Woods v. Horton) in the California Supreme Court regarding male victims of domestic violence. The judge ruled male victims of domestic abuse could not be denied social services as victims of abuse. It took a legal proceeding to determine that a group of people, abused males, not be discriminated against on the basis of sex. The judge further ruled,

In reforming the statutes that provide funding for domestic violence programs to be gender-neutral, we do not require that such programs offer identical services to men and women.   Given the noted disparity in the number of women needing services and the greater severity of their injuries, it may be appropriate to provide more and different services to battered women and their children.   For example, a program might offer shelter for women, but only hotel vouchers for a smaller number of men.

Imagine being the mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, or future girlfriend or boyfriend of a man whose protection against physical abuse at the hands of a women left him unprotected and underserved by the very agencies responsible for protecting the abused.

Would we tolerate programs that “appropriate…more and different services” to men addicted to drugs, victims of aggravated assault, suffering from mental health crisis, and other services where boys and men are disproportionately represented?

A male friendly narrative finds little place in the big three (media, academia, and government). The big three push causes not equality and do not identify and promote practices and policies that show compassion for male victims even though data clearly indicates disparities.

Demonizing Masculinity

Our culture has learned to demonize masculinity in every nook and cranny. In a recent book by Kara Dansky (The Abolition of Sex: How the Transgender Agenda Harms Women and Girls), Dansky writes that the “so-called ‘transgender’ agenda is a misogynistic assault on the rights, privacy, and safety of women and girls—and is being fueled by a massive, vicious, and well-funded industry.” Dansky’s general thesis argues that the “transgender” and sexual orientation movement harms girls and women in many aspects of society by displacing biological reality from law. Dansky specifically mentions the compromised opportunities of female athletes and the dangers female prisoners experience at the hands of the “transgender agenda.” Dansky’s essential thesis has merit and is an important topic. However, some of the rhetoric pushes a particular message; a “misogynistic assault” on women’s rights. Dansky employs the patriarchal, oppressor narrative that galvanizes a particular base, much like Gloria Steinem did with NOW (National Organization of Women) in the 1970s.

In The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell Ph.D., Farrell (a three time NOW Chair) discusses a pinnacle moment for the National Organization of Women. Farrell and others agreed that children needed their mothers and fathers after divorce and separation, but NOW leaders, against the wishes of people like Farrell, knowingly acted on the side of increasing membership at the expense of children's well-being. Steinem and others feared supporting equal parenting-rights would "undermine its political base" and drive membership away. Politics violated equal rights and subverted the needs of children.

If Dansky believes the “transgender” agenda is misogynistic, one would also have to believe the agenda is misandrist as well, given boys and men are impacted too. Dansky does not need to blame men for the impact the “transgender agenda” and sexual orientation movement is having on girls and women; in part, because she bases her argument, primarily, in biological realities and the corporate greed of the medical industry.

The courts, too, have participated in the marginalization of equal protection for men and their children as well. For decades, the courts have violated the rights of men who have been forced to take on the fiscal responsibility of non-biological children while also violating the rights of fathers who are alienated from their biological children. Custodial battles still continue in the courts to the detriment of children, often leaving families with greater debt, fewer resources for children, and unhealthy circumstances; a plight well documented in Ginger Gentile’s Erasing Family.

So much of the third and fourth wave feminist approach is still mired in a narrative that marginalizes males, particularly white males who account for at least 8.4 million of those living in poverty in the U.S.

But this is not true of all feminists. Christina Hoff Sommers supports equality feminism and has written about the blight of boys. Her book (The War Against Boys) received national acclaim and is a must read by any parent, educator, and policy maker.

Equality feminism wants for women what it wants for everyone — fair treatment, respect, and dignity. But on today’s campus, equality feminism has been eclipsed by fainting couch feminism…So I think you have to be on the lookout for discrimination and stereotypes holding people back, but you also have to be willing to be open to the possibility that there are innocent explanations for disparate outcomes.”

There is no denying our nation’s men support women. The effort to advance any important cause for women does not need to do so by blaming men. More importantly, policy makers should not advance causes that pit citizen against citizen while violating equal protections; the truest safeguard in any democracy. Policies that send resources to protecting women’s health, improving female educational outcomes, and other areas and services must include males, and policy-makers are entrusted to look equally at the outcomes of boys and men and ensure their rights are not marginalized and violated. And this cannot happen when the male narrative is not part of the public discourse and public policy.

At what point as a nation, did we decide equal protections would apply to some more than others even when circumstances are similar or worse?

The nation cannot deny the blight of black males in America and the lack of fathering in the black community, but we do little in the way of speaking more openly about the topic of fatherhood in America and the importance of family. Although the nation seems willing to take on the challenges of black boys, it is vigorously prepared to minimize the challenges of other boys and men under the auspice of patriarchal privilege. Our policy makers and special interest groups continue to divide our nation and undermine the ability to ensure our nation’s sons and daughters have safe schools, live in safe communities, and have equal opportunities to find success.

Any Asian, black, hispanic, native-American, and white boy who needs to improve reading skills and educational opportunities is floating on the same life-raft of despair and adrift in a potential sea of drug use, criminal activity, and problematic life consequences.

Childhood Uncertainties and the Nuclear Family

Many of the childhood uncertainties in this country happen because of the lack of emphasis on the nuclear family. A new culture has emerged that undermines the importance of the nuclear family narrative.

The increase in out of wedlock births across the nation continues to exacerbate hardships and many of our social ills. In 39 of 50 states, 35% of children are born to unmarried parents, with 26 of those states toping 40% of births to unmarried parents.

National shared parenting rights would go a long way in ensuring the health and welfare of children. Channeling resources away from the family courts and into keeping families together would serve the common good.

But the nation has compromised equal protections and has been enforcing ideological policies at the expense of our boys, girls, men, and women. Grandmothers and grandfathers are alienated from their grandchildren; fathers and some mothers are removed from their children’s lives.

The family structure is under assault because our policies are adhering to special interests and unwilling to ensure equal protections that promote and encourage the single most important element of a child’s life: Family!

Until we heal the equal protections rift on behalf of all citizens, our nation will continue to see the social fallout of special interests. And it will take a new political culture with the backbone to ensure the rights of all citizens are carried out in all aspects of American life.

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